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destiny4ever
July 02, 2010, 01:01 PM
I have been watching the Taiwanese drama “Devil Beside You” (http://wiki.d-addicts.com/Devil_Beside_You) (a series adapted from the Japanese shojo manga Akuma de Sourou (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Devil_Does_Exist), which was written by Mitsuba Takanashi) and I have been enjoying watching it very much. I have also become a huge fan of the OP song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJxE2k9ewrI) of this show. While listening to this song, the comment from one youtube member caught my attention.

randomemoperson7:


i like it =] good job. and i like the song x3 it is so true that most girls (well I do anyways x3) want a guy that is a hot bad boy on the outside but sensitive and caring guy on the inside…

I have read shojo and josei series where the girl chooses the bad boy who is kind underneath over the good boy who is always nice, for instance

*if you haven't read or watched Hana Yori Dango don't read what is inside the spoiler box*

in Hana Yori Dango where Tsukushi ends up with Tsukasa (the bad boy) rather than with Rui (the good boy).

All this got me thinking about the following question:

Do girls really prefer the bad-boy type over the good-boy type when reading manga, watching anime and dramas…and maybe even in real life? Or this is just something that happens in shojo and josei?

I would love to know your opinions and thoughts (girls and boys) on this topic. :)
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My response:

I do admit that I have a soft spot for bad boys who are caring, kind and sweet on the inside when reading manga, watching anime and Asian dramas. I love Ren from "Skip Beat", Tsukasa from "Hana Yori Dango", Kenji Harima from "School Rumble", Makio from "My Boss My Hero", Jiang Meng from the "Devil Beside You" and other bad boys that I don't remember at the moment.http://www.laymark.com/i/m/m015.gif (http://www.laymark.com) Now these characters are not angels or saints but they are kind, protective, sweet, and caring on the inside; so they do make up for their bad traits. And although, I do prefer them in their respective series over the good boys, it’s not always like that in every series I read or watch. I do have my share of good boys that I like. :)

Now regarding real life…mmm..I need a bit more time to think about my reply before answering to that part of the question…

<.Haruka.>
July 03, 2010, 08:24 AM
Well, not all bad boys have the same soft spot inside like what we watch in the dramas or movies, imo..
Though, I agree that most of the bad boys have the character & attitude that most girls (..maybe most of us) are attracted to.
I also observe that most of shoujos like to have that type of main protagonist which adds adventure to the story.
Here's an article I've read where it explains 7 reasons why women love bad boys (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/The_7_Reasons_Why_Women_Love_Bad_Boys_28607.html)... (which I agree partly..:sweat) and the original bad boys (http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Good-Girls-Love-Bad-Boys) that I think were from celebreties which most of the traits of a bad boy were typical.

But in real life, I think it still depends on the girl, what are her standards and hopefully she does likes him not on the superficial side of the bad-ass character type he plays...

destiny4ever
July 04, 2010, 10:08 PM
Well, not all bad boys have the same soft spot inside like what we watch in the dramas or movies, imo..
True, and even in manga, anime or live-actions, there are some bad boys who are just…bad, they have no redeeming qualities.



I also observe that most of shoujos like to have that type of main protagonist which adds adventure to the story.
Good observation, Sakura-chan. Mmm…maybe bad boys are more interesting than good boys? Maybe bad boys are more appealing to the demographic that reads shojo?



Here's an article I've read where it explains 7 reasons why women love bad boys (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/The_7_Reasons_Why_Women_Love_Bad_Boys_28607.html)... (which I agree partly..:sweat)

“1. Rebels are confident”
I agree with that since I do think confidence can be very attractive. And now that I think about it, most (if not all) of the bad boys in shojo series are very confident in themselves.

“4. Rebels are challenging and mysterious”
So in other words they are not boring, they are interesting. And you know…maybe I'm wrong but I think that sometimes when things get too easy people lose interest in them quickly, so maybe it’s the same with relationships...




and the original bad boys (http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Good-Girls-Love-Bad-Boys) that I think were from celebreties which most of the traits of a bad boy were typical.
I actually don’t like any of the bad boys showed in that article.



But in real life, I think it still depends on the girl, what are her standards and hopefully she does likes him not on the superficial side of the bad-ass character type he plays...
Mmm…yes, I agree, in RL it comes down to each girl, to her standards, likes and dislikes, in short, what she is looking for in a man. And you are right, it’s important that the girl actually loves the person (and everything that comes with said person) and not just the image/idea of the bad-boy that she has in her mind.

Asarii
September 24, 2010, 08:22 PM
It's probably due to romanticism. Bad boys in manga are usually cool, alluring and sexy whereas the bad boys in real life are often, but not always, connected to crime. That's an extreme example though. It's also not that easy to create or maintain a relationship with an actual bad boy. In the land of fiction, sadly we're just admiring them from afar so there's not going to be any emotional or stressful baggage. (Unless of course, the fangirl is into her character so much to the point of obsession.)

Most of my favourite male characters are either anti-heroes or antagonists: Orihara Izaya in Durarara!!!, Kazama Chikage in Hakuouki, Sesshoumaru in Inuyasha etc. There's certainly a pattern I see, but the traits I look for in real life are not a reflection of that. It's probably the opposite!