Introversion and Relationships

[xi0]

In my case I never feel lonely, I feel lonesome for someone special however, that's just instinct. And I can entertain a crowd, but I just want to be alone once I've got what I need. Is anyone else like that here?

What exactly do you mean by getting what you need?

But I do agree on being socially fun and then wanting to be alone, that's something I've experienced before.

[Gats]

I'm clearly introverted. Quite reclusive in a large group of people or a group of strangers at all. Very talkative with close friends, or when I know the topic very well. Actually I can be really extrovert in intimity with anyone, especially when it's a short relationship like a doctor, or a relationship with a clear pupose (specific activity together) etc. That's why that going out with the sole purpose of chit chat (however there are few exceptions) isn't appealing to me.

It didn't really bother me until quite recently.

[xi0]

I'm clearly introverted. Quite reclusive in a large group of people or a group of strangers at all. Very talkative with close friends, or when I know the topic very well. Actually I can be really extrovert in intimity with anyone, especially when it's a short relationship like a doctor, or a relationship with a clear pupose (specific activity together) etc. That's why that going out with the sole purpose of chit chat (however there are few exceptions) isn't appealing to me.

It didn't really bother me until quite recently.

Chit-chat didn't bother you until recently? What happened?

[Gats]

Chit-chat didn't bother you until recently? What happened?

I said that chit-chat in general isn't appealing to me.

What bother me now is the whole attitude. I changed city for studies and now I live in a place where I basically know almost nobody. All people (but 1) I share a link with are 680 km away at least. ><

[xi0]

I said that chit-chat in general isn't appealing to me.

What bother me now is the whole attitude. I changed city for studies and now I live in a place where I basically know almost nobody. All people (but 1) I share a link with are 680 km away at least. ><

Ah yeah. I guess sometimes starting anew like that and trying to meet more people doesn't really sound appealing.

[faintsmile1992]

What exactly do you mean by getting what you need?

I mean that I would avoid interaction unless its useful to me, in the broadest sense of the word.

But I do agree on being socially fun and then wanting to be alone, that's something I've experienced before.

Fun for others? I can do that, but it isn't fun for me, its a drain. Even posting on forums can be a drain.

"I find no stimulation in watching ordinary people trying to put the make on other uninteresting people. I can fix my own cup of coffee and not have to look at or talk to other people. No matter where I go, I stimulate others, and have been doing so all my life. It used to be I'd sometimes get stimulated back." - Anton Szandor LaVey

[xi0]

I think social interaction has any number of benefits, I don't have to hang out with people with the stipulation that I have to know how it benefits me before I do it.

Well anything that isn't fun would be a drain. I just think you shouldn't have a pretext for why you interact with people, it sort of seems like too much of a bother

[Naomidee]

It's normal to take a while to adapt to a new living situation, Gats, especially when you're going in blind without knowing anyone. It's difficult to get to know people when you don't already have someone to introduce you and go to parties with blah blah. School and work are always the best places to start. And really.... Sometimes the only places to start.

Having a pretext for interacting with people? I guess I never really thought about it. Why in the world would you need one in the first place I wonder. I admit that no matter how much I love me time, it would suck to be alone all of the time. I know I'm pretty self-centered, but not so much so that I run out of ways to entertain myself after a while. I need someone else's sense of humor to compliment mine and generally just spend time with someone that I care about, even if it's just a few times a month.

Besides, you're never going to change anything if you're cooped up to yourself for the rest of your life. I believe that to leave a mark on the world, you have to at least have some roots weaved in the ground and get tangled with a few other people. Who the hell wants to go their whole life without ever moving something?

[Gats]

It's normal to take a while to adapt to a new living situation, Gats, especially when you're going in blind without knowing anyone. It's difficult to get to know people when you don't already have someone to introduce you and go to parties with blah blah. School and work are always the best places to start. And really.... Sometimes the only places to start.

Having a pretext for interacting with people? I guess I never really thought about it. Why in the world would you need one in the first place I wonder. I admit that no matter how much I love me time, it would suck to be alone all of the time. I know I'm pretty self-centered, but not so much so that I run out of ways to entertain myself after a while. I need someone else's sense of humor to compliment mine and generally just spend time with someone that I care about, even if it's just a few times a month.

Besides, you're never going to change anything if you're cooped up to yourself for the rest of your life. I believe that to leave a mark on the world, you have to at least have some roots weaved in the ground and get tangled with a few other people. Who the hell wants to go their whole life without ever moving something?

Oh I'm well aware of that. But it doesn't make me at ease at all. Besides my current studies don't help for that.

[xi0]

Oh I'm well aware of that. But it doesn't make me at ease at all. Besides my current studies don't help for that.

A convenient excuse ...and trust me, I know many of them

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Besides, you're never going to change anything if you're cooped up to yourself for the rest of your life. I believe that to leave a mark on the world, you have to at least have some roots weaved in the ground and get tangled with a few other people. Who the hell wants to go their whole life without ever moving something?

Here, here. Maybe the saddest thing that I can think of is having no one remember you, or never affecting others lives. It can be the simplest thing, but given how insignificant we are in the Universe, we're remember through interaction with others who are just as insignificant in the grand scheme of things. It's beautiful in a way.

[Aazholh]

I find it hard to connect with other people. Even here on the internet. It's great when you do find like-minded people to hang with, but they're so hard to come by in real life. There's times that I wish I could have a group of friends to have good times with. Other people make it look so easy...

[xi0]

I find it hard to connect with other people. Even here on the internet. It's great when you do find like-minded people to hang with, but they're so hard to come by in real life. There's times that I wish I could have a group of friends to have good times with. Other people make it look so easy...

You have to put yourself out there...chemistry doesn't happen by accident.

[Teubier]

Funny you brought up, I've taken the Jung Typology test twice and tested INFP the first time and INTP the second. I didn't score particularly high in any of the 4 categories though.

I'll try again in a few months to see how it evolves. I might understand why I like Ging's character so much with this INTJ result.

[Aazholh]

You have to put yourself out there...chemistry doesn't happen by accident.

Afraid to say that it's an acquired skill for me; which I'm still trying to master.

[xi0]

Afraid to say that it's an acquired skill for me; which I'm still trying to master.

Meh, it comes easier to some than others. If there's a will there's a way.


*starting to sound like Hallmark cards *