I confess I have more to say.
Maybe I'm a bit overreactive at the moment but I'm not really sure that's the case
Thanks Charlie, get well !
Last edited by wizzard; April 20, 2012 at 03:17 AM.
The reason for appearing now is because i was asked not to reappear and my presence here is disturbing some people. I do find it a fun place and that's why I want to continue writing. It doesn't matter some of my posts (or most of them) are considered strange by some of the fauna around here. It always has been that way and I wouldn't have it any other way. I understand you have no power over how people would react but you can't deny you must think before you write because your ideas may have an impact on someone. (I hope I don't sound like I'm trying to say something not pretty in a good way)
So it's because you find it fun to disturb people? I don't know you all that well wizzard, so you could be just another user to me. I just don't respond well to baseless accusations.
Whether they're having an impact or not, my words are...mine . I would appreciate you not implying vague concepts and ideas because I think you're off base. People are free to think what they want, it's not my responsibility to parse my words out of worry for how they might "impact" someone.
Adi is a grown woman and she can decide for herself whether she wanted to follow any feedback I or anyone else may have offered her. I take absolutely no responsibility for the decisions she made. Implying that she should have never asked for our opinions (not that she even did ask for them) is a little ridiculous. Saying that an individual should refrain from consulting friends or family over their struggles is controlling and wrong. I've seen it happen with my sister and her husband, and I get really angry when he does that to her.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you're controlling (I don't know you well enough to make that assessment), but you should think about what you're writing as well. :/
I'm writing here cause i like this place and it's ppl, I'm not accusing anyone it may sound that way but I only want to clear things if i'm to stay here.It's my opinion in other words if I haven't presented evidence to support my claims please point me out which ones. I don't like being misunderstood or misinterpreted. I'm not saying you should refrain from giving advice or expressing yourself, but my opinion as someone who also knows Adi, you should know you can't just wash of your hands with "she can think for herself" (I'm not saying she can't) I just think you should've included it's relative to how the other person is, as well.
Right now I'm only trying to explain myself and dismiss any misconceptions you have about me. I'm not judging or accusing anyone of anything.
And no i don't find any fun in disturbing people in a bad way. What would make you say that?
Last edited by wizzard; April 20, 2012 at 03:49 AM.
Ah, I suppose I misread your first sentence...it's late
I'm not "washing my hands" of anything because there is no guilt on my end in the first place. She can seek advice from whoever she wants, so to say I must keep in mind who she is and who you are when I don't know you is a bit ridiculous. Of course I keep in mind who she is when giving advice because I consider her a friend, but to say I can't be honest myself because of who she is isn't fair to anyone involved. In fact, in some ways it's disingenuous.
Last edited by xi0; April 20, 2012 at 03:55 AM.
I don't know about all of this. When you say you don't want anyone to have any "misconceptions" about you, I get the idea that you think Adi had painted some grotesque picture of you, as if you were a horrible boyfriend or person. I don't think she ever gave that impression, so I don't see what the problem is.
And when you said you had lied to her friend about some things, I don't know what you're talking about there either. Are you saying you fed her friend some fake information just to see if her friend would tell her? I mean... of course her friend would tell her... If you ever thought otherwise, then it's silly. XD; Girls tell girls things. They watch out for each other. What exactly did you lie about, anyway? Being interested in other girls? If so, then yeah. That's pretty awful of you.
I agree with you on 100% and I want you to know everything there is to know. (comments included)
And yeah that's what i told him. I'm not saying she did but as I know how people might think of me I'd rather give them something myself to dislike me for.
I confess that this has gone too far and should stop. There are a lot of things that people here don't know and it's not the place to share them, but without them the situation can't be fully understood, so no point in commenting it anymore.
I'm sorry for all the commotion I have caused, I didn't want this, I just wanted to have a better understanding of the situation. And now that I fully understand it, I don't like it, I don't like my ex as a person anymore and that's not changing.
I'm sorry about your condition, Charlie, I hope you get better soon. Take care!