It seemed from what you wrote that you deliberately avoided being courteous. Courtesy goes hand in hand with how people view you, its hard work but the more courteous you are to people the more courteous people will be to you. If anything, that in itself is a worthy goal to strive for. Most people can tell when you are outright dismissing them and its helps you avoid being that obnoxious person that no one likes.
And I disagree its not "natural" to not value the opinions of others. It's completely natural. Agreeing or disagreeing with someone else is another matter, but valuing other peoples opinions is important. Self esteem is the value we place on ourselves and valuing others is an integral part of our own self-esteem. It is part and parcel of our need for respect from others and this need is important in having a healthy level of self esteem. It's part of the human need for recognition and acceptance. Abraham Maslow goes into it in a lot of detail.
Last edited by Imperium; January 18, 2013 at 01:18 PM.
I confess I 'measure' my friends. I mean I measure our friendship. I value friendship a lot, my friends mean the world to me, especially my closest friend. I like my friends for who they are, I love them even with their flaws. But one of my friend is someone I seem to start disliking a bit once I got to be more around her. I care for her, but something tells me we won't be getting along if I continue to be this close around her. I'm starting to think I can only be friends with her from a distance.
And I know this may not make any sense, or it may sound the wrong way, but it is what it is. I feel kind of strange about it. I kind of feel like a jerk for feeling this way. So maybe I'm hoping to hear that other people have the same kind of friendships, I guess.
Honestly, I find people who do that self-absorbed enough to take out personal frustration on others. It's best to get away from it before they decide to destroy the relationship and burn all bridges.
Thanks, guys. It's a bit too complicated to explain in details, but I'll keep in mind what you have told me.
The Two Texans have finally met, details later. I guess. :P
OH MER GAWD
WHAT HAPPENED? WHAT'D YOU DO? WHAT KIND OF DEBAUCHERY HAPPENED? TELL US EVERYTHING.
I BEG, PLS
Did Kevin show you his Pokemon cards?
Such as the rare or limited Charizzard or legendary Pokemon?
Can you say how things went or are we going to have to wait until Kevin gets here?
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Damn - the only thing I remember about Kevin was that he had pokemon cards....
What-esle was there.... god..
I'll go and re watch his video post.