Archived The MangaHelpers Confessional Thread

[Naomi]

Adi is a grown woman and she can decide for herself whether she wanted to follow any feedback I or anyone else may have offered her. I take absolutely no responsibility for the decisions she made. Implying that she should have never asked for our opinions (not that she even did ask for them) is a little ridiculous. Saying that an individual should refrain from consulting friends or family over their struggles is controlling and wrong. I've seen it happen with my sister and her husband, and I get really angry when he does that to her.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you're controlling (I don't know you well enough to make that assessment), but you should think about what you're writing as well. :/

 

[wizzard]

I'm writing here cause i like this place and it's ppl, I'm not accusing anyone it may sound that way but I only want to clear things if i'm to stay here.It's my opinion in other words if I haven't presented evidence to support my claims please point me out which ones. I don't like being misunderstood or misinterpreted. I'm not saying you should refrain from giving advice or expressing yourself, but my opinion as someone who also knows Adi, you should know you can't just wash of your hands with "she can think for herself" (I'm not saying she can't) I just think you should've included it's relative to how the other person is, as well.
Right now I'm only trying to explain myself and dismiss any misconceptions you have about me. I'm not judging or accusing anyone of anything.

And no i don't find any fun in disturbing people in a bad way. What would make you say that?

 

[xi0]

Ah, I suppose I misread your first sentence...it's late

I'm not "washing my hands" of anything because there is no guilt on my end in the first place. She can seek advice from whoever she wants, so to say I must keep in mind who she is and who you are when I don't know you is a bit ridiculous. Of course I keep in mind who she is when giving advice because I consider her a friend, but to say I can't be honest myself because of who she is isn't fair to anyone involved. In fact, in some ways it's disingenuous.

 

[Naomi]

I don't know about all of this. When you say you don't want anyone to have any "misconceptions" about you, I get the idea that you think Adi had painted some grotesque picture of you, as if you were a horrible boyfriend or person. I don't think she ever gave that impression, so I don't see what the problem is.

And when you said you had lied to her friend about some things, I don't know what you're talking about there either. Are you saying you fed her friend some fake information just to see if her friend would tell her? I mean... of course her friend would tell her... If you ever thought otherwise, then it's silly. XD; Girls tell girls things. They watch out for each other. What exactly did you lie about, anyway? Being interested in other girls? If so, then yeah. That's pretty awful of you.

 

[wizzard]

I agree with you on 100% and I want you to know everything there is to know. (comments included)

 

[xi0]

I agree with you on 100% and I want you to know everything there is to know. (comments included)

Regarding what exactly?

 

[wizzard]

I don't know about all of this. When you say you don't want anyone to have any "misconceptions" about you, I get the idea that you think Adi had painted some grotesque picture of you, as if you were a horrible boyfriend or person. I don't think she ever gave that impression, so I don't see what the problem is.

And when you said you had lied to her friend about some things, I don't know what you're talking about there either. Are you saying you fed her friend some fake information just to see if her friend would tell her? I mean... of course her friend would tell her... If you ever thought otherwise, then it's silly. XD; Girls tell girls things. They watch out for each other. What exactly did you lie about, anyway? Being interested in other girls? If so, then yeah. That's pretty awful of you.

I told Him with the condition not to tell her cause i wanted to be his friend too but i had doubts he can be trusted. (I guess I wasn't wrong)
And yeah that's what i told him. I'm not saying she did but as I know how people might think of me I'd rather give them something myself to dislike me for.

Regarding what exactly?

My view and some unknown to the general public facts.

 

[Dried Ambrosia]

I told Him with the condition not to tell her cause i wanted to be his friend too but i had doubts he can be trusted. (I guess I wasn't wrong)
And yeah that's what i told him. I'm not saying she did but as I know how people might think of me I'd rather give them something myself to dislike me for.

I don't think is fair to talk about someone who's not really here and can't defend his actions.

This situation can be analyzed from diffent angles, and none is right or wrong. Things can happen. Just follow Adi's example and move on.

 

[xi0]

I told Him with the condition not to tell her cause i wanted to be his friend too but i had doubts he can be trusted. (I guess I wasn't wrong)
And yeah that's what i told him. I'm not saying she did but as I know how people might think of me I'd rather give them something myself to dislike me for.

Seems like a lot of unnecessary commotion and histrionics added to a situation for the sake of faking someone out.

My view and some unknown to the general public facts.

I'm not sure that's necessary to be honest, this thread doesn't need to be about mudslinging or having a tete-a-tete over something so personal.

 

[Adorien]

I confess that this has gone too far and should stop. There are a lot of things that people here don't know and it's not the place to share them, but without them the situation can't be fully understood, so no point in commenting it anymore.

I'm sorry for all the commotion I have caused, I didn't want this, I just wanted to have a better understanding of the situation. And now that I fully understand it, I don't like it, I don't like my ex as a person anymore and that's not changing.

I'm sorry about your condition, Charlie, I hope you get better soon. Take care!

 

[Naomi]

I told Him with the condition not to tell her cause i wanted to be his friend too but i had doubts he can be trusted. (I guess I wasn't wrong)
And yeah that's what i told him. I'm not saying she did but as I know how people might think of me I'd rather give them something myself to dislike me for.

So you told a lie.

You told a lie that would hurt Adi's feelings and make her question your relationship.

You told this lie to her friend, knowing that he would probably tell her.

I guess all that I can say is you should see how silly this was for you to do. You were playing with Adi's friend's morals and blatantly disregarding Adi's feelings.

Let me put it this way. If I found out that my boyfriend was interested in another girl, I would break up with him. If I found out that my boyfriend LIED about being interested in another girl just to see if the information would get around to me, then I would break up with him. You kind of set yourself up for a lose-lose situation. Your actions were insensitive. Before you had explained this situation (when I only had the story from Adi's point of view), I didn't see you as a bad boyfriend. Now that I've heard your point of view, I kind of do.

So I think you made a mistake, and Ancy's right. You should learn from it and move on.

 

[thornofcarrion]

I confess, I don't want to comment or advice or discuss what has been said above, regarding Adi. She needs to be judge of what is happening or will happen. Otherwise, she will never learn and grow.

Confession no 2., I want to leave office earlier .

 

[Naomi]

I confess that this has gone too far and should stop. There are a lot of things that people here don't know and it's not the place to share them, but without them the situation can't be fully understood, so no point in commenting it anymore.

Alright, sounds like a plan. I need to write this report anyway! I confess that I totally procrastinated some more.

 

[wizzard]

I agree with the moving on part, just some things to wrap it up. That friend guaranteed he wouldn't tell her and i was counting on that. Also i wasn't playing with his morals because in my eyes he've done the same thing on some other occasions.

I might be disliked by most yet for some reason knowing I'm not lying makes up for it. On another not I agree with Adi and we should probably not discuss it anymore (if we've all said what needed to be said)

 

[xi0]

I confess that two out of the last three nights there has been a person mumbling outside of my window in a low, incomprehensible monotone. He/she is around for about a minute and then comes back at least once within range of my hearing. It's bizarre, frightening, and comical all at the same time




















I also confess that when he finally leaves I feel lonely

 

[Farfalla]

GAY

 

[xi0]

GAY

I said it might not be a guy

---------- Post added at 06:05 AM ---------- Previous post was at 06:05 AM ----------

I think she's just freaked out from her nightmare last night

 

[Naomi]

I said it might not be a guy

That... I... What? You have a stalker? I have no earthly idea of who it could be.
But no, seriously. That's weird as hell. I would be creeped out.

I think she's just freaked out from her nightmare last night

I was in it.

 

[Farfalla]

D: I'm looking like a fucking panda. My mom will think I became a junkie!

Ok regarding the other topic... I also don't think that's the place to discuss that situation anymore =/ you're opening your life here and presenting things that should belong only to you two, they are private =/ they won't ever matter as much to us as they do to you, so at this point our opinions shouldn't be considered anymore. That could also be mean, as if you're insisting on a situation that is hurting Adi as well. We could move to other topics.
About the friend thing... Imo, you can't apply exams to learn in wich person you can trust, friendships as well as trust are built^^ You two (you and the friend) started bad (again, imo), but it doesn't mean you can't find a friend in him or in here. But for that to happen, we all should drop this 'Adi x Mon' topic... She's already our friend, we love and care for her, and it at least makes me uncomfortable to talk about that now. When we're not comfortable to talk to someone, we drive ourselves away. Just take it easy, Mon, give this place some time, just be yourself, you'll build friendships here o/

 

[Dried Ambrosia]

I was in it.

I assume you're (points to avy) in Nana's nightmares as well