Archived The MangaHelpers Confessional Thread

[xi0]

what do you mean? (line up)


I fess up the reason behind joining this forum, i thought it's gonna be fun (and it is)

That the crush is...you know

 

[wizzard]

know to the public in other words?

 

[xi0]

know to the public in other words?

Well, I've figured it out...

 

[wizzard]

You didn't for 2 days tho

i confess it's rly cool hiding it but she said it's too big of a bother

 

[Adorien]

I confess that I'm tired of keeping it a secret: Wizzard is my boyfriend. There! xD I've said it. This took too long. Sorry guys, I thought it'd be fun for a while, but... he didn't want me to say anything. He's such a kid. >.>

 

[wizzard]

I fessup i'm taking the fun out of her life

 

[Adorien]

I confess he makes me have headaches sometimes.

 

[Naomi]

When you say "people" do you mean "guys"?

Mostly guys, but it applies to girls as well.

Especially one girl. Then I found out she's bisexual. And the tiny little crush I had on her developed a little more. Although I confess I rarely ever act on the crushes I have.

I started to think about it as well, and I think I generally treat people the same regardless of what they wear too. Or at least I would like to think so. If not, I'll probably start doing it now.





And LMAO @ Adi and Wizzard. Do I have to be super appropriate with you now, and everything? I can't make any more lovey dovey comments at you, eh?

 

[alphabeta]

I confess that I'm tired of keeping it a secret: Wizzard is my boyfriend. There! xD I've said it. This took too long. Sorry guys, I thought it'd be fun for a while, but... he didn't want me to say anything. He's such a kid. >.>

O.K. That was unexpected. You got me good, adi. Like... really unexpected...

/speechless

 

[wizzard]

And LMAO @ Adi and Wizzard. Do I have to be super appropriate with you now, and everything? I can't make any more lovey dovey comments at you, eh?

What do ya mean ?

O.K. That was unexpected. You got me good, adi. Like... really unexpected...

/speechless

But i tried harder

 

[Adorien]

Just as planned. (Though I thought it was very obvious.)

LMAO @ Adi and Wizzard. Do I have to be super appropriate with you now, and everything? I can't make any more lovey dovey comments at you, eh?

No, just say anything you feel like, Naomi. ^^ We both won't mind it.

 

[kkck]

I confess the prospect of graduating has resulted in gross negligence on my part regarding the cleanliness of my room. Its like katrina exacted the full might on its wrath on my stuff and then proceeded to kick everything around. I myself am as clean as ever (shower every day, clean cloths and so on) however I am amazed I have no found something alive beneath my laundry or the empty pizza boxes. I am not sure of whether I should move out or just burn everything(I guess moving out is the legal option but burning everything would make so much more sense at this point)....

 

[Naomi]

I confess the prospect of graduating has resulted in gross negligence on my part regarding the cleanliness of my room. Its like katrina exacted the full might on its wrath on my stuff and then proceeded to kick everything around. I myself am as clean as ever (shower every day, clean cloths and so on) however I am amazed I have no found something alive beneath my laundry or the empty pizza boxes. I am not sure of whether I should move out or just burn everything(I guess moving out is the legal option but burning everything would make so much more sense at this point)....

AMEN TO THAT. My room is a disorganized wreck. There are papers, textbooks, notebooks, clothes, shopping bags, Christmas gifts, make-up, molecule sets, everywhere. The first thing I'm doing after I take my last final on Thursday is cleaning this fucking mess!

It's hard to study in this environment, isn't it?
Burning everything sounds so good, but I'll end up having to clean it. It's going to take hours.

 

[kkck]

^Well, in my case I am already done with my exams. I simply have to present a project on thursday and an assignment on tuesday and I am pretty much done with undergraduate crap. I have complete peace of mind but at the same time complete boredoom lol(I guess that is better than the stress though). My largest concern at the time (Outside of moving out) is whether eating a whole cheesecake in two days would make me sick (which I will find out in about 5 minutes)....

 

[kdowns]

I confess that I have been ignoring my Best Friend, because of my feelings for her have been coming back lately and I've felt like a douche for doing so...

Also, All day today I've been thinking to myself if I should go forth with this as today when I hugged her right before going to class, I got a warm fuzzy feeling in my stomach which I've only gotten once before... And the other time was with a girl who I had feelings for and she had feelings for me.

 

[Adorien]

Ksnowd...

Is there any chance of her returning your feelings? Stupid question, I know. But maybe after some time has passed... who knows.

 

[kkck]

I am in a somewhat similar situation lol. There is this girl who I liked and for that reason I hung out with her (the two of us never actually went out for a number of reasons- the main reason being her boyfriend in another continent). Now, even though we were "friends" our relationship became increasingly weird. She treated me like a boyfriend of sorts even though we were not in fact dating in the least. Now, as you can imagine being in this weird relationship demanded from me all the work being an actual boyfriend would demand without any of the perks (none whatsoever). Now I don't like her anymore and the whole thing seems like a hassle. I am convinced she genuinely cares for me as a friend however I still decided I will have no more of this weird relationship (or friendship w/e it is supposed to be at this point) and decided to cut her off(just to get this out there but I never actually spent a penny on her, we just hung out). The issue here is that now I don't call or text her she calls and text me to hang out once the break starts and we could actually see each other. It is surprisingly hard to cut off someone who keeps calling. I know I am being a complete ass to her (thank god I am selfish). A friend even suggested doing the mature thing and actually talk with her about our weird "friendship" (even though her friends and mine can't understand why we aren't together) however actually solving the problem would imply we would still hang out. The main reason at the moment I would prefer not hanging out is simply that for some reason she does not want to hang out with my friends (they like her and have no problem with her whatsoever) and at some point before she had no problem whatsoever with them (and in particular there is one girl I am friends with with whom she got really weird). Basically, I have to hang out with her (a friend) and in turn I don't get to hang out with my normal guys and girls who are also my friends. Whats the point of not hanging with my friends to hang out with another girl who is only a friend?

 

[xi0]

I confess that I'm tired of keeping it a secret: Wizzard is my boyfriend. There! xD I've said it. This took too long. Sorry guys, I thought it'd be fun for a while, but... he didn't want me to say anything. He's such a kid. >.>

Ummm, it was pretty obvious

Mostly guys, but it applies to girls as well.

Especially one girl. Then I found out she's bisexual. And the tiny little crush I had on her developed a little more. Although I confess I rarely ever act on the crushes I have.

I started to think about it as well, and I think I generally treat people the same regardless of what they wear too. Or at least I would like to think so. If not, I'll probably start doing it now.

Well when I was replying to your post, I actually was going to say guys and gay women, but that seemed sort of specific, lol.

You found out she was bi and your crush intensified? ...wow, guys and girls are different

Crushes aren't for always acting on. Depending on what type of person you are, they're either super obvious and unspoken between yourself and your crush, or they're kept secret. That's the one benefit of crushes I suppose. Though whether you never act on them or not is another issue I suppose...

^Well, in my case I am already done with my exams. I simply have to present a project on thursday and an assignment on tuesday and I am pretty much done with undergraduate crap. I have complete peace of mind but at the same time complete boredoom lol(I guess that is better than the stress though). My largest concern at the time (Outside of moving out) is whether eating a whole cheesecake in two days would make me sick (which I will find out in about 5 minutes)....

How'd that work out?

I am in a somewhat similar situation lol. There is this girl who I liked and for that reason I hung out with her (the two of us never actually went out for a number of reasons- the main reason being her boyfriend in another continent). Now, even though we were "friends" our relationship became increasingly weird. She treated me like a boyfriend of sorts even though we were not in fact dating in the least. Now, as you can imagine being in this weird relationship demanded from me all the work being an actual boyfriend would demand without any of the perks (none whatsoever). Now I don't like her anymore and the whole thing seems like a hassle. I am convinced she genuinely cares for me as a friend however I still decided I will have no more of this weird relationship (or friendship w/e it is supposed to be at this point) and decided to cut her off(just to get this out there but I never actually spent a penny on her, we just hung out). The issue here is that now I don't call or text her she calls and text me to hang out once the break starts and we could actually see each other. It is surprisingly hard to cut off someone who keeps calling. I know I am being a complete ass to her (thank god I am selfish). A friend even suggested doing the mature thing and actually talk with her about our weird "friendship" (even though her friends and mine can't understand why we aren't together) however actually solving the problem would imply we would still hang out. The main reason at the moment I would prefer not hanging out is simply that for some reason she does not want to hang out with my friends (they like her and have no problem with her whatsoever) and at some point before she had no problem whatsoever with them (and in particular there is one girl I am friends with with whom she got really weird). Basically, I have to hang out with her (a friend) and in turn I don't get to hang out with my normal guys and girls who are also my friends. Whats the point of not hanging with my friends to hang out with another girl who is only a friend?

I had a relationship like that before. We were just friends, but it was always assumed amongst others that we were dating or should date. I never really looked at her in that way (which, in all honesty, didn't make any sense ) but when I think back on events that happened then, her passes at me were pretty obvious. She even goaded me on to ask one of her friends out by saying that if I didn't, she would ask me out herself, and at the time it really caught me off guard and spooked me to be honest because it didn't come across as a joke.

Thinking back on it, I started dating that friend and she dated someone else. We would hang out occasionally as a couple and it always felt weird. Her boyfriend was a dick, but I never said anything. The girl I was dating wasn't right for me either, since she felt she shouldn't be dating anyone behind her mother's back since she was Mormon and felt guilty. She broke up with me and took me back a couple times. My friend and I slowly drifted apart, and I always wondered what would have happened if the circumstances were different...it's not like I could have ruined anything considering we don't see each other anymore anyways.....meh

Attraction/Love can be such bullshit sometimes

 

[kkck]

Well, cheesecake didn't make me sick. As glad as I am about that, it did turn out to be remarkably uninteresting lol.

Well, as far as the deal with this girl I have to say I am extremely confused to this day mostly because I don't have a fucking clue of what she wanted (or wants, she does not know I want to "drift off"). I started liking her a decent while ago but never particularly made any move because she indeed had a boyfriend (it did not change that our friendship became increasingly weirder as it appeared we were indeed a couple). Later on we both went back to school (we both studied abroad) however a week after class started she broke up with her boyfriend (who I never had met nor had any reason to think that he was anything but a perfectly nice guy). Anyways, we kept in touch and by the time the summer break came I thought I had a shot at this. Later on the two of us spent the day together only for her to eventually reveal that she had gone back with the guy two weeks earlier. I made my peace with that as she actually looked like she felt horrible about that and we remained friends. My friends told me she had no feelings whatsoever for me and I would have loved to agree with them however our friendship looked a hell lot more like a relationship and I swear at that point I had al the duties a boyfriend has and none of the perks. My friends insisted on her not having feelings for me and I was imagining things until they saw a lone text message she sent me. Under normal circumstances when you want to hang out with someone you ask that person to do so (hey, wanna hang out or something). In turn what she did was actually demanding to know where I was and to go see her (wth would she care where I am at? I am not her boyfriend). Anyways, after more people thinking we were dating, a couple of coments on why the two of us weren't married (WTH???!?!?), someone telling us we argued like a married couple (which we probably did to my chagrin) and jokes on her part telling me that she wanted me to propose with a damn white gold ring (Even though I am currently broke) I decided to have no more of this friendship. Its weird, and if people see me with her and just assume we are dating it would destroy any chance I could have with a potential nice girl (I could get one of those girls who make moves on commited men but why the hell would I want a girl like that?). So I am over her now and instead of doing the mature thing (which would be to have an adult conversation to set the limits of our friendship and makes perfectly clear so that we can actually remain friends) I am opting for simply drifting away and not hang out with her anymore (I really simply do not want to hang out with her, it takes time, it is tiring and it is simply not worth it if hanging out with her comes at the expense of hanging out with my usual group- again, the adult thing to do would not get me off hanging out with her and I sure as hell am not starting a conversation with "hey, I don't wanna be friends anymore, its not you (it is), its me").

 

[xi0]

That sounds incredibly confusing and weird. Maybe at some point you were giving off a vibe that you were interested or you were never clear with your intentions? Correct me if I'm off, but it sort of sounds like she pushes you around and you don't do anything about it? She seems fickle and immature to be quite honest.

The mature and right thing would be to talk to her, but the right thing isn't always the easy thing. You would probably get the same result if you just ignored her from now on, but I'm not sure if that's fair to her or whatever the hell your relationship actually was.

It sort of seems like you were "emotional friends" with her. That you might have been in an emotionally intimate relationship, but that was it. She treated you like a partner when you really weren't...