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Re: Single or Married

If single means you can still live with your girlfriend/boyfriend, the question isn't single or married; rather it's married or cohabitation. The rate of marriages have been decreasing while cohabitation has become a growing trend.

Many many years ago, divorce was practically taboo but it became normal and thus, there was the divorce generation in which if your parents are not divorced, you are one of the few. I suppose the people of our generation no longer trust marriages because many of us are children of divorced parents or have seen the consequences of divorce from relative or friends who come from divorced family.

What's the point of marriage when you can happily live together unmarried? After all, marriage is just in name. I suppose when you are not married, it is easier to leave a relationship and move on, you won't feel the pressure to stay in a relationship that is not working. But honestly, life is unpredicatable. How do we know if he or she is the one? We don't. It's all about taking chances. Of course, we should choose life partners that are suitable for us in the first place or else your marriage won't last a month.

However, if we are discussing remaining single or getting married, honestly, I want to get married if I do find someone I love. When you grow old or when you're dying, you want to have your loved ones around. Being single is to have freedom and to have fun. But fun and friends don't last forever. At one point of time, your friends can't be there for you and then, you'd have no one else.
 

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i wanna get married pretty much.. the prob is i just dont find the right person.. so for the time being, i have to stick to be a single..:wtf

by the way i found some pretty thoughful video concerning this issue on youtube.. you may wanna take look at this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wsYOI1pDssI
 
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Being married is like..... having a girlfriend for life!
 

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Single and proud! I don't wanna get married..
 

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Marriage maybe when I'm 25 lol
 

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Hm, I'm kind of torn on this issue. Dependent to me. If you are with somebody and you are planning to have children, then might as well get married at some point - because it's just better for the kids, being in a good family makes them feel secure. If you are with somebody and you don't want to be parents, then it's really not that necessary. The only advantage to marriage as far as I can determine is that it officially labels your lover in society as YOUR lover. Period. XD (And even that's becoming less and less true these days, as affairs and divorces have been so common lately.)

Myself, I can go for marriage, but only if the person I am with wants it and if I really love her to the point where I believe I would be able to live with her the rest of my life, and especially if we're working on having some kids. But actually, having said that, I probably would just be as content NOT ever being married. But then, I'm a guy, and I don't really have jealousy issues. Guys do have an easier time as they get older at getting lovers than girls (lousy fact, but...)
 
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hello all i am single,.. and still not yet know what to do in the future, but i would love to have a kid,...

Myself, I can go for marriage, but only if the person I am with wants it and if I really love her to the point where I believe I would be able to live with her the rest of my life, and especially if we're working on having some kids. But actually, having said that, I probably would just be as content NOT ever being married. But then, I'm a guy, and I don't really have jealousy issues. Guys do have an easier time as they get older at getting lovers than girls (lousy fact, but...)
yeah the fact that guys will be still be popular is true,.. its somethings that only nature could explain >_>
 

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I've been married for 6 years now (to genkigemini) and I can't imagine life any other way.

I used to always say that I'd never get married just because I'm so darn picky when it comes to being around people for prolonged periods of time. I can honestly say that I'm glad I was wrong. :D

I would never suggest someone rush into marriage though...you have to be sure about it. Too many couples push themselves into something and then regret it.
 

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That's cool CoyoteJack ^^ My parents have been married since they were 18 years old, for 42 years now, and they've had a very good time of it, so yeah, if you find the perfect partner, then life is definitely good... marriage or not. :amuse

I won't lie, I've always wanted to be a family man, so I probably WILL get married one day. I just have to meet the right person.
 

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That's cool CoyoteJack ^^ My parents have been married since they were 18 years old, for 42 years now, and they've had a very good time of it, so yeah, if you find the perfect partner, then life is definitely good... marriage or not. :amuse

I won't lie, I've always wanted to be a family man, so I probably WILL get married one day. I just have to meet the right person.
My parents are the same way. My Mom was 15 (!) when she got married and they are married to this day (nearly 50 years) after having 5 children.

I'm all for living together first to make sure you know what you're getting into since it's always best to see a person at their best and worst (not just their best when you date). heh heh
 

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im single......................... but then again im only 16 and i actually heard somewhere that divorce rates are actually going up :oh
 

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I don't really agree with those pros & cons. I mean, while being single can be great because you don't have to worry about anybody else but your self, being married doesn't take away your freedom. It's the spouse that does it but if that's what you want that's ok, or you can get lucky and find somebody that doesn't bog you down. It's a given you don't get the total freedom as being single but you trade that for companionship. Marriage can be as great or greater then being single. I'd like to be married, I like the idea of having somebody worry about whether I come home or not.
 

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I'm single and enjoying it........ok not that much but its cool.
 

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im single and its good , i mean reeeeeely good but then again im only 20 my work is my life and i desperatly want a kid, but after going thru so many girls i often wonder if there are any good ones out there.............i havnt encountered any yet.
 

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24, single and planning on staying like this
too many anime / manga to watch, too many classes to level up in WOW (2- 70's, 2- 63's, 1- 40, alot of 20's 30's) too lil time :(

plus i hate resposibilities and dedicating time for a family, i rarely even see my own parents these days

at the end everyone has his own opinion
 

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Wow, you guys are brining up threads that I didnt even notice.

Anyway I'm single and willing, I got my eyes on a girl right now, but we'll see how it goes.

Oh, by the way for all of you that knew that I had a girlfriend, well we broke up..:scry.
 

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divorced, actually...i feel that the institution of marriage is designed to fail; especially since these days its just another opportunity to quit something. it used to be frowned upon and almost unthinkable.

i could possibly just be a little bitter, though :p
 

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I don't think I could ever be single for the rest of my life. I know there are cons for being married but I suppose once you find the one for you it wouldn't matter if you had a few doubts.
 

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Single.

I broke up with my girlfriend because I learned that I was moving out of the state. I'm not really good at long distance relationships.
 

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"-no safety? Spouse might betray you" ._.

What it does not, just choose well.
Still there is little danger xD

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I prefer getting married, it is projected as if you and your family when they die, their children are still alive, and led to his "seed ahead."
 
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