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You didn't supply me with anything new that we haven't gone over already, and a couple things that we do know but you wouldn't know if you didn't watch the conversations about it later (like the fact it's confirmed by the victim it was casual sex, and that this has happened to her in 3 casual sex encounters, and she's had one violent rape as well). So I stopped with a potential huge response and will just answer the last question:
Destiny is right that casual sex is more dangerous than monogamous sex, and if one is going to engage in casual sex, they should have a strong understanding of boundaries and how to maintain them. If they do not, then they will continue to be exploited by rapists in casual encounters, but in committed non-casual encounters with a partner that they can trust, they are in much less danger of a potential rape. He said this in a mean way, but he said this.
In mental health, avoiding things that trigger you is called "accomodation". It's a negative coping mechanism and is not beneficial towards their mental health. So him absolving her of the responsibility to standing up for herself, is committing harm to her. Or at the very least enabling her. He's wrong to do that. You're wrong to do that. He's right to tell her not to pursue casual sex
It's counter productive to preach that No means No, only to tell women not to worry about saying no when it actually matters.
Destiny is right that casual sex is more dangerous than monogamous sex, and if one is going to engage in casual sex, they should have a strong understanding of boundaries and how to maintain them. If they do not, then they will continue to be exploited by rapists in casual encounters, but in committed non-casual encounters with a partner that they can trust, they are in much less danger of a potential rape. He said this in a mean way, but he said this.
In mental health, avoiding things that trigger you is called "accomodation". It's a negative coping mechanism and is not beneficial towards their mental health. So him absolving her of the responsibility to standing up for herself, is committing harm to her. Or at the very least enabling her. He's wrong to do that. You're wrong to do that. He's right to tell her not to pursue casual sex
It's counter productive to preach that No means No, only to tell women not to worry about saying no when it actually matters.
