Honestly, i do think that at some points, spanking is something parents shouldn't be ashamed to do. It's not like everyone learns about his errors, speaking about them. Sometimes there needs to be someone who shows why you really shouldn't do something, and for that to not happen again, parents shouldn't be blamed for spanking the kid. Of course we are not talking about hitting the shit out of someone and i ain't saying this should be done in any case. I think it should only be used as a last resource anyway, but still i don't judge people who do this sometimes, when the situation may require it.
Me and my brother were never easy kids. Not that we were evil kids or anything like that, but we were always pretty energetic kids, so creating problems was/is one of our longest friends. And honestly, i did deserve the physical punishment that i had sometimes. And honestly, sometimes i just wanted to be slapped or something like that, and having my parents stop bothering me, than being like 1 hour talking about what i did, and why it was wrong.
For example, on my sister case, i don't remember ever seeing my parents need to do anything like that. She was always a nice kid, doesn't create any problems, she is also one of the best students, so after the hell created by me and my twin brother, my parents finally had some rest
Ok since this is a confession's thread, i am going to reveal something not a lot of people known about me. I have never met my biologic's father, and honestly if it depends on me i never will. My mom never had an easy life, sadly her childhood, for reasons i am obviously not going to state wasn't an easy one. And obviously it didn't get any easier. My biologic father, wanted my mother to abort, but even though we were twins and my mom was on the early twenties, and she had no one to support her,she fought and managed to raise us. Me and my brother, were born with a lot of health's problems, so on top of all that, we required a lot medical's expenses. A single mom, raising twins with a lot of problems, and on top of that obviously the concerns that comes from work and the preoccupations she had about how she would have money to pay everything ... honestly, i am just a little younger than she was at the time, and i don't think many people would be able to endure something like that.
I did had a chance to meet my father around the tie i turned 18. Imagine that lol ... when i turned 18, which is basically when i can be consider an adult and there wasn't any obligation to pay anything for me, he suddenly wanted to meet me and my brother. I never asked for any information about him, neither i know how he looks like. And honestly i couldn't care less. My mom also made obvious she didn't wanted me to meet him, but honestly there's no way in hell, i would ever like to meet him.
For me whoever he is, he is just a random person, who doesn't mean more/less than any other people i don't know. I don't wish nothing bad to happen to him, i just don't want to have anything to do with him at all. I mean, he could had finally realize how wrong he was, something i kinda doubt, but still there's nothing to make "right" now.
My mom can be pretty annoying, and sometime she overreacts and we get mad for something not important at all, but no one can love me more than she does. And even though i would prefer her to accept some situations differently, she is still the best MOM in the world.
All this to say that i really love my mom!
And i also confess that i question my true nature, when i know i do something it's gonna get her mad and sad. Can't i really put her interest above mine? Am i a bad person because i can't do this? What is needed to happen for me to change? Why can some people learn with mistakes and i keep doing them over and over? Is it possible that specific situations don't obviously have to reach a certain path, even if we are talking about kind people?
And i always saw myself actually as a good person. Someone who obviously has a lot of flaws, but still ... is it impossible for me to change, unless some dramatic occurrence triggers it? I know we are not robots, but still, if i want to somehow justify the way i act, i can't stop wondering is if it's that hard for
some people to change at all.
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