Archived The MangaHelpers Confessional Thread

xi0 · May 25, 2012

Naomidee said:
I just don't like any of the characters yet I guess. I'm still at that point where I don't really care what happens to them, which is typically a sign of my not liking a book. I think the characters are the most driving force for me. We'll see. :/

Really? ...that could still change, there's a lot more to happen and learn about them. The characters are a selling-point of the series. You don't even like Arya?

M3J said:
It was good, mango was good. Also had mango mint mojito. Was good too. :3 Yep. Total bill was 34.something for one person. ---

Dunno, try it and lmme know how you like it.

That's cocktails anywhere...they put a whole bunch of shit in them and give them fancy names and charge more. Unless they're rail drinks of course.

M3J said:
I confess I have or think I have very little to be proud of myself for. Only thing I can boast is how nice and polite I am. And how well I can drive. Apart from that, dunno what else I'm good or useful for or what I can be proud of.

Years ago, I could have been proud of getting good grades, being studious, etc. Now, just dunno what.

I confess I actually don't care about this though. X_x

Then why bring it up? :derp

Why boast about anything? Just be yourself. "Driving well"...not sure what sort of personal value that has to be honest, and I never understood your obsession with that.

Be proud of what you have and can accomplish, the right people will recognize that when it's important......driving isn't one of them :cookiestare

M3J · May 25, 2012

Want something that I can personally feel proud of.

Driving good is a good value for me cuz like, I can drive like a crazy nigga without getting into accidents. For fun, really. REMEMBER, GARY? :arf

Still can't believe you preferred the calm ride back home. D:

Don't care of people recognize it though. Fuck others, most only see what they want, never what's actually there.

Fancy names ftl.

xi0 · May 25, 2012

What you feel personally proud of has usually been recognized by someone else. When that isn't the case you usually end up being proud of stupid things...like say, driving :derp

Naomi · May 26, 2012

Milly, screw your business degree. You need a profession where you can drive like a fucking maniac while helping people/saving lives.

AMBULANCE DRIVER :arf

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I confess that I am so fucking sick of how much my parents hate each other.

scav · May 26, 2012

same shit with my parents since years, they don't even life together anymore. but i stopped giving a fuck about that

Naomi · May 26, 2012

That's the thing. They've been divorced since I was twelve. It's been eight years and they hate each other even more as time goes on. It's easy to forget about it and care less when I don't get caught up in the middle of it. I just can't wrap my brain around that kind of bitterness. My parents are good people right up until they so much as email each other. I can feel the tension seething when they're in the same room as each other.

I don't understand why it can't just be like my sister's wedding night where they were civil and even kind to each other. And people wonder why I basically burst out crying when they could just look at each other and smile for two seconds. That seems so absurd when I think about it. No wonder my views on marriage are so. fucked. up. :fail

M3J · May 26, 2012

xi0 said:
What you feel personally proud of has usually been recognized by someone else. When that isn't the case you usually end up being proud of stupid things...like say, driving

No, I wanna feel proud of it myself. I wouldn't be proud of being smart even if others were, and this is actually true story.

And driving isn't a stupid thing to be proud of. -_-

Naomidee said:
Milly, screw your business degree. You need a profession where you can drive like a fucking maniac while helping people/saving lives.

AMBULANCE DRIVER

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I confess that I am so fucking sick of how much my parents hate each other.

That works. Somewhat. :arf

I can kind of relate. My parents are nowhere near as bad as your parents, but they can argue horribly where my dad is loud and insults and curses at my mom, then I have to deal with her crying. Remembered experiencing this as early as 4-5, it blows.

But at least you don't have to deal with your parents bein together constantly. Hope they stop hating each other like that.

Naomidee said:
That's the thing. They've been divorced since I was twelve. It's been eight years and they hate each other even more as time goes on. It's easy to forget about it and care less when I don't get caught up in the middle of it. I just can't wrap my brain around that kind of bitterness. My parents are good people right up until they so much as email each other. I can feel the tension seething when they're in the same room as each other.

I don't understand why it can't just be like my sister's wedding night where they were civil and even kind to each other. And people wonder why I basically burst out crying when they could just look at each other and smile for two seconds. That seems so absurd when I think about it. No wonder my views on marriage are so. fucked. up.

That's not absurd. Completely understandable considering what you've seen from your parents. You desire to see them get along, and when they do, it's a great moment.

xi0 · May 26, 2012

Parents are the most important things in most people's lives. That's usually why they're so responsible for how we turn out.

I confess that I take my parents still being together for granted. It's something that's always been and there was never a time where it would have been any different. It's not perfect, but it still works.

I confess that sometimes this results in me being naive. And sometimes I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing, to be honest.

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M3J said:
No, I wanna feel proud of it myself. I wouldn't be proud of being smart even if others were, and this is actually true story.

And driving isn't a stupid thing to be proud of. -_-

No, I meant something others saw in yourself. Sometimes those things aren't clear until they're pointed out by others.

What are you, Steve McQueen? Of course it's stupid, unless you're doing something other than commuting, where it's your job and duty. Driving from point A to point B without being killed or arrested, it's common sense.

M3J · May 26, 2012

You won't understand, you're le noob.

Why would I care about what others see in me? People want to see what they want, and if they don't see it, they'll ignore or abandon.

It's a bad thing to take for naive, to be honest. At least for your relationship. If your parents are together, you should try to find out how they pull it off so you can try to do the similar thing with your relationship. This day and age, it's a pretty good thing if parents stay together and not get divorced.

Ironically, people complain and say marriages are holy, but they're not anti-divorce like they are against homosexual marriage. :fail

If marriage was holy, there wouldn't be as many divorces.

xi0 · May 26, 2012

Sometimes people have a hard time recognizing how they're perceive by others. Your thoughts about yourself and your outward projection isn't always the same. This is what people mean when they say someone is misunderstood. I'm just saying that just because you can't find something to be proud of yourself doesn't mean no one else can. Someone can point something out, doesn't mean you'll accept it. It's still there though.

There can't be marriage without divorce IMO, but I can admire people who work at something and fix it. It seems people were able to do that more often back in the day. The whole "We come from a time when something was broke, you fixed it. You didn't just buy a new one"-school of thought. But that doesn't seem to happen much anymore.

I don't think I need to find out necessarily, it's something that is just unspoken and understood. In my head it's just the way marriage should be. Not really on my mind though, so my capability is sort of irrelevant right now. Anything else just always seemed alien and taboo to me growing up. I have a greater understanding of it now though even though I might not be able to relate to the situation personally. I know my dad has been tempted throughout the years, and I'm sure my mom was too...it just clicked and worked. It's not all about love though, it's convenience and beneficial to be married. If it was just that though they would be miserable with each other and would probably look outside of marriage for fulfillment. They haven't done that because they love each other.

M3J · May 26, 2012

Oh, k. Figured that's what you meant, tried to deny it. :edu

Regardless though, people can be pretty wrong.

There can be. The problem is people just can't get along or don't try to work on it, to name few of many reasons. No idea why people don't try to fix it nowadays when they should, and when it's worth it. I mean, why lose a great person or relationship over somethin that could be fixed?

There's more than just love though. Guess every relationship has its own way of working out, as long as there's work, trust, and love put in.

xi0 · May 26, 2012

Sure they can be wrong, but I'm talking about those who know you best. You would at least appreciate that I hope.

I don't mean every marriage ends up that way, I'm just saying that staying together while hating each other and letting that consume a household can be just as damaging and sometimes even more so to those involved than separation and divorce. It's not an easy thing to fix a relationship, and sometimes the people involved do things that the other can't forgive them for. It's more complicated than "I love you, you love me, look at these beautiful kids, let's fix it".

I will agree that people should at least try though, they owe everyone involved that at least.

Teubier · May 26, 2012

I do not often recover the wish for some warmth, my dear Nothing, but tonight would have been the fucking time to allow some nice one... as the warmth that you granted me earlier, even though it was the result of a valuable experience, left a fair amount of sadness in what's maybe still over there. I hope that I'll be able to keep today's feeling registered long enough to maintain the will to draw the steps on the floor, when I'll reach the right floor. And I hope that I'll be able to pay it back through another lifetime.