Life The MangaHelpers Confessional Thread - Part 3

Naomi · Jul 5, 2014

We put or house on the market two days ago, and had an offer yesterday. I've never been attached to this house, but it makes me a little sad to leave it. "Don't know what you've got til it's gone" sort of bullshit.

Asarii · Jul 12, 2014

The machine at my local train station deposits train tickets and change into the same slot. On Tuesday I paid the exact amount I needed to buy my ticket and reached for the slot after I paid. To my surprise, I discovered $2.00 that was apparently left there by someone who used the machine before me.

Of course I took it. :3c

~~Money is money.~~

benelori · Jul 12, 2014

Asarii said:
The machine at my local train station deposits train tickets and change into the same slot. On Tuesday I paid the exact amount I needed to buy my ticket and reached for the slot after I paid. To my surprise, I discovered $2.00 that was apparently left there by someone who used the machine before me.

Of course I took it. ~~Money is money.~~

Similar things happen at the company I work too...we have a vending machine full of stuff there, and sometimes people forget that they have leftover change...it's always good to have a cheaper sandwich, cuz then you have money for juice too :3c

M3J · Jul 13, 2014

I confess I deeply hate how self-conscious and shy I have become. Like, that's one of the biggest regret I have - caring what others thought of me in middle school and as result, becoming shy and self-conscious because I didn't want to look like an idiot or something.

I confess I want to stop caring what others think of me again, and just be myself, but it's hard. Like, I'm good with people, so I really have no reason to be shy or self-conscious even with my speech impediment, but I. Can't. Help. It. But I"ve made progress.

benelori · Jul 14, 2014

M3J said:
I confess I deeply hate how self-conscious and shy I have become. Like, that's one of the biggest regret I have - caring what others thought of me in middle school and as result, becoming shy and self-conscious because I didn't want to look like an idiot or something.

I confess I want to stop caring what others think of me again, and just be myself, but it's hard. Like, I'm good with people, so I really have no reason to be shy or self-conscious even with my speech impediment, but I. Can't. Help. It. But I"ve made progress.

Being self-conscious is good though, you should keep that...

Schabrak · Jul 14, 2014

Self-conscious may not be the word you wanted to use, more like scrutinize/question yourself?

I'm forced to take some therapy sessions currently, and it became a major topic.

Stop looking for faults somewhere, but yourself. Mistakes are part of every human being.
Envy and grudges are bad for yourself, look out for things that are good in your own life and be thanful for those.
Stop holding on to stuff, that anger/provoke/annoy you or keep you from progressing/advancing in your aims.
Stop complaining, it just creates negativity. Instead look and better yourself and your environment. The german word has the double meaning: one being burdening you/pulling you down and complaining.
Don't try to control everything/every situation, as every human, animal or even things have a live of their own. Little is clear cut, people you know look at things differently, life is full of suprises.
Evaluating, judging, criticizing has often no effect, the universe doesn't care what you think about it. Feel and enjoy the world, percieve it as it is, Pay attention o what you like, that stuff will make you happy.
Stop caring/regreting/overthinking so much, the past is unchangable, the present is what's important. Just try to do better next time, recognize the next chances and act, that should be what you should concentrate on.
Negative soliloquies can be one huge pain in the ass. They often lead to depression, destroy your confidence and force you to think about negatives. Next time your catch yourself having those, force yourself into encouraging ones.
Nothing is pefect, always try to better yourself instead of aiming for a perfect version immediately. Perfectionism can be a fear, that stops you from achieving your goals with indulgence, joy and inspiration.
The fear of consequences is often misplaced, e.g. if you overthink stuff instead of just giving your opinion, can often lead to a worse situation. Don't deny your own importance, your creativity and humaneness. Be brave and open your mouth.

M3J · Jul 15, 2014

benelori said:
Being self-conscious is good though, you should keep that...

how is it good?

You forgot one more thing, Schabrak:

Try to have fun in life, and don't take it so seriously. :thumbs

liductan · Jul 15, 2014

M3J said:
I confess I deeply hate how self-conscious and shy I have become. Like, that's one of the biggest regret I have - caring what others thought of me in middle school and as result, becoming shy and self-conscious because I didn't want to look like an idiot or something.

I confess I want to stop caring what others think of me again, and just be myself, but it's hard. Like, I'm good with people, so I really have no reason to be shy or self-conscious even with my speech impediment, but I. Can't. Help. It. But I"ve made progress.

I can relate..I'm having a hard time opening my mouth and expressing myself. I used to not care at all, I started caring because I would hurt people feelings, still does. What ever came to mind would come out my mind, or it would run on it's own. I didn't like hurting others people's feeling but it wasn't always bad, sometimes what I said wold funny but of course I focused on the negativity. The way I would speak to people came out very hard, harsh, sometimes rude. I always been this way since I was kid, I have a very strong personality, I'm tired of restraining myself, I just like to tell it like it is. I sound like a lion but lately people have been treating people like a little mouse, all because I don't talk back.
I starting shutting down, now people run over me. I am pushed around, when I know full well I can shut down those people down. Well, I'm sick of it, I'm going to talk, everyone makes mistakes, I just have to learn the art of control. I'm tired of feeling dead.

TheMoa · Jul 16, 2014

I confess that I've been drinking more than I'd like too.
I mean, it's not like an alcoholic, but 1 year and a half ago I used to drink once a week, last semester I was drinking 3 times a week, even 4 depending on the week.
And now with the world cup and no classes there was a couple of weeks that I drank 5 times. It's just... I get bored to be home alone at night and every invitation I get is to drink with some friend.
I'll try to scale it back to once a week next semester... problem is that "doing nothing" gets me bored and when I'm bored I get anxious.

Adorien · Jul 22, 2014

I also have problems expressing myself but it comes from feeling awkward and/or embarassed. You know when things sound logical in your head and when you hear the words come from your mouth it's somehow not what it was supposed to... Yeah.

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Sometimes I just want to reprogram myself. I know it's all me and I can change anything I like but it's sooo hard.

M3J · Jul 22, 2014

Adorien said:
I also have problems expressing myself but it comes from feeling awkward and/or embarassed. You know when things sound logical in your head and when you hear the words come from your mouth it's somehow not what it was supposed to... Yeah.

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Sometimes I just want to reprogram myself. I know it's all me and I can change anything I like but it's sooo hard.

Nothing in life comes easy, you gotta work hard for it and remember what you stand to gain when you succeed.

I confess Gary confuses me. D:

Adorien · Jul 22, 2014

Yeah, I know all that, but don't you ever just want to erase some things and replace them with others? xD

M3J said:
I confess Gary confuses me. D:

Me too.

kkck · Jul 22, 2014

Adorien said:
I also have problems expressing myself but it comes from feeling awkward and/or embarassed. You know when things sound logical in your head and when you hear the words come from your mouth it's somehow not what it was supposed to... Yeah.

Something similar happens to me (it's probably a shock to absolutely no one that I am a somewhat awkward guy). Everything sounds good in my head until I say it and people think I am an asshole... Or something like that, I am not a mind reader to know what they are thinking. Luckily I have a group of close friends that are aware that I am not actually being an asshole. On the other hand, it is a pain to deal with when meeting people. People tend to think I hate people in general and crowds... Now, I am not a fan of either but I don't hate them, I just can't get over my own awkwardness to just enjoy myself which is quite distinct from hating everyone (or just not being a fan).

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M3J said:
I confess Gary confuses me. D:

.... sexually?

Adorien · Jul 22, 2014

People usually don't take me seriously when they don't really know me. Especially people my age and younger ones. I've been told by girls that they don't see me as a "threat" if I am close to their boyfriends, sometimes guys forget I'm actually a girl and they treat me like one of the bros. Overall, I feel looked down on. I see those eyes looking at me like I'm some kind of really weird person, when I'm actually just a tiny bit awkward. xD But really, nothing that wrong with me. Or it's about me being tall and I can't help it. I just always feel awkward. xD

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kkck said:
.... sexually?

God forbid!

M3J · Jul 23, 2014

Adorien said:
Yeah, I know all that, but don't you ever just want to erase some things and replace them with others? xD

Me too.

Most of the time, yes. I wish I wasn't shy and far more extroverted.

kkck said:
Something similar happens to me (it's probably a shock to absolutely no one that I am a somewhat awkward guy). Everything sounds good in my head until I say it and people think I am an asshole... Or something like that, I am not a mind reader to know what they are thinking. Luckily I have a group of close friends that are aware that I am not actually being an asshole. On the other hand, it is a pain to deal with when meeting people. People tend to think I hate people in general and crowds... Now, I am not a fan of either but I don't hate them, I just can't get over my own awkwardness to just enjoy myself which is quite distinct from hating everyone (or just not being a fan).

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.... sexually?

Not sexually, you creepy kick.